Create Your Own Language Patterns


This article is about one way that I create new language patterns and how you can do the same.

Naturally Occurring Patterns

A lot of patterns have come about just through observation. A whole set of very famous patterns called slight of mouth supposedly came about from modelling the language Richard Bandler uses in an argument. From this came sixteen powerful patterns that they have called Sleight of Mouth.

My Process

Every now and again an idea or a pattern will pop in to my head and I will just start playing with it to see what happens. As you play with them you get to notice the impact they have and how you can use them until you get to the point where you can instinctively use the pattern without realising that you are doing it. Here is a recent personal example.

Families and How to Survive Them

My mother has recently had a shoulder operation. My parents have needed a little bit of support whilst she recovers. So I have been living with them for a few days to help them out.

I don’t think parents believe that you grow beyond about the age of thirteen. So living in my parents’ house trying to look after them has often been a little fraught. It seems as if we have to discuss everything fully to get to any decision.

This is at its worst with planning meals. Both my parents were great cooks in their time, both are control freaks around the kitchen and neither of them believe I have any cooking skills (I hadn’t when I was thirteen and I think that is how they remember me). The net result is almost every day we have to discuss what to cook, how to cook it and a risk assessment of things like using sharp knives …read more

Curated From…: The NLP Company